From Joy to Devastation with a Narcissistic Ex

He promised me that I could forever trust him. He promised my parents that he would never hurt me. He told me that he was the victim in his previous marriages, and that his children were damaged because his ex wife abandoned the family, was a drug addict/alcoholic, and a sex addict.

He convinced me that he had been in love with me from the time that we met, twenty six (yes,26 ) years ago.

I, easily and stupidly, fell in love with the delusional portrait that he painted. Damn it, I really wanted to believe that this could be a reality!

After we married, I began to realize that he had an AGENDA. He didn’t marry me for “love”, and the other blah, blah,blah, crap. He married me for the following reasons:

1) Beautiful, younger, educated wife that had great social/money connections, to make him look great.

2) Instant “New Mommy”, for his children, that would replace his ex-wife (as referenced above) to make him look GREAT.

3) New Wife (ME), stupid enough to believe that what came out of his mouth was TRUE. I defended him, through thick and thin. I never knew what the TRUTH was, throughout our entire relationship.

4) Great credit report and lots of $ in the bank. Damn, you’ve gotta love a girl with great credit, and money to play with!

5) Revenge! I dated him when I was just out of College and not ready for a serious relationship; especially with a man that was almost a decade older than me, and just divorcing his first wife. He professed his “Love” for me after we dated for about 4 months, and told me that he couldn’t see me anymore because I was breaking his heart. WHAT THE HELL?!? We had sex one time during our dating career, and he was seeing other women the entire time (his 1st ex wife was also calling him incessantly, a huge turn off for me). I did not realize that he felt hurt, and humiliated, by this “break up” .

He was obsessed with me then, and STILL stalks me to this day.

A Narst NEVER forgets if he/she feels humiliated, embarrassed, or dumped, by anyone. They will come back and try to destroy that person, as long as they live.