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I just found out that my ex has more plans to ruin my life. Rumor has it that he is planning another lawsuit, more of the same bull crap this narc lets fly everywhere he goes. His obsession with me is incurable, and will force me to leave family, friends and my home if I have to. There is no cure for sociopaths with NPD, and narcissism is one bitch of a mental problem!
Knowing what I know now about the sickness that is narcissism, how the narcissistic ex can and will never stop stalking you, and that once entangled with the narcissist you are plagued for life… I would have made many changes in my life long ago, when running was easier. Let this be a warning to all of you, my friends, members and readers of this blog… know your enemy before it is too late. Read up on the characteristics of the Narcissist, because what you see is not always what you get, and once the narcissist becomes your ex, all hell breaks loose.
And thank you to all the hundreds of you emailing me and reading about my life before, during and after the toxic and deadly overdose of the Narcissistic EX!
I am asking for help from those of you that have been following my Blog. I thought that I finally was done with all of this, but found out that he’s going forward and filing a frivolous, bullshit, phony,civil lawsuit against ME, claiming that I harmed HIM, just to keep harassing me, and tying me up in court, AGAIN. Someone out there, must know someone/someway to stop him. I called the infamous Gloria Allred (Los Angeles, CA) and spoke to one of her attorneys about my case, but was brushed off like an annoying mosquito. I am truly afraid of this man, and what he might do to me. I don’t want to die in order for the Court System takes my case, and others like it, seriously. Please send me your thoughts, and ideas. I am so BEYOND exhausted and depressed, at even the thought that have to continue dealing with this sick man. Thanks, in advance, for any suggestions that anyone can send me. Love to all of you.
P.S. I’m still here to help everyone of you, by sharing my experiences. Maybe you can help me too.
Yes! It is possible, usual, and normal, for a Narcissist to take all of the steps necessary, to assume a believable, powerful persona, of someone that they are not! They are expert, pathological liars, that will say and do anything, to cover up the truth of what they really are. Sometimes they come from damaged family backgrounds. Sometimes, they are spoiled, rotten brats. Sometimes, there is no reason for them to act the way that they do. The “sense of entitlement” of a Narcissist drives them to do whatever they want, to whomever they want, to achieve a sense of superiority, and acceptance, in their conception of reality.
For this reason, here is my most important advice to you! Do a background check on this person before you get too involved, especially when you’re talking about the The Three M’S; MONEY, MOVING IN TOGETHER, & MARRIAGE! If you’re talking about your future, you have the right to know about their past, and present life. Ask for, or obtain his/her SS#, and Drivers’ license # (better yet, a copy of the ID). See if they have aliases, criminal history,ex-wives, current wives, children, and mental problems. Run a credit report on them. Go to the County Records, and pull up everything you can find with their name on it (you can do some of this online). And, even after that , DIG DEEPER! I didn’t find out, until we were separated after seven years of living together, that my ex husband had been involved in 62 lawsuits (YES, SIXTY TWO), that I was not even aware of, BEFORE WE WERE MARRIED!!! He was a professional litigator, without an attorney’s license! Hope this helps you feel a little bit better. I, at least, deserve a free dunce cap.
I’m glad that so many of you have found, and followed my blog. You must all give yourselves a HUGE round of applause, and many pats on your backs, for surviving the abuse that you, and your children, did not deserve. Please write in, and tell me more about your experiences with your NARC, and how you made it through the battles. You have no idea how many people that you would be helping. I had no idea how many people have been in my same situation,and been destroyed by their involvement with a Narcissist,until I received a ton of responses to my blog. It makes me wonder how many people were not able to survive the devastation, caused by this relationship, and turned to alcohol, drugs, and suicide.
I ended up homeless during this ordeal, and I’m sure many others have had to go there too. It’s so painful to talk about, that you just CAN NOT talk about it. We can not believe that we will get any help from the police, the Court system, and even our family and friends, because the NARCS are AMAZING PATHOLOGICAL LIARS, and are able to twist every truth, into a lie that is beneficial for them. Those on the outside of your relationship, do not get this, and will not believe you. It’s hard for us to wrap our minds around such a ridiculous reality.
We really need to FIND and CREATE more support groups to help us cope with, and find the better life, THAT WE DESERVE. I know that there are some wonderful groups of counselors out there already, and I would love to be able to help spread the word, of help that may be available to all of us. Thank you, and much love to all of you.
X convinced me to buy a property with him, before we were married, for our future together. The plan was to remodel the old house, that was on one lot, for ourselves. I had the background and experience that was necessary to fix up the existing and messed up house. Believe me, it was MESSED UP! I have a talent, actually a gift, of vision, and can fix an ugly house, inexpensively . We would then design, build, and sell a new house on the separate, adjoining lot, for a big profit.
X told me that we would be partners on both properties, and X couldn’t buy the project without me. He was living with me at the time, and even though he was legally divorced, he and his ex wife (#2) were still “fighting” over money and child custody issues.
The word “fighting” is an understatement of what was truly going on between the two of them. X and his ex were embroiled in a all out WAR. They used their children, and me as sacrificial pawns, in their efforts to obtain power and control over each other. I did not understand that this was FUN AND GAMES for them! This crap went on throughout our entire marriage. X pretty much shielded me from the reality of THE WAR, until the day we got married.
Now, where was I……..? Oh, yeah. The house that was gonna lead us to Heaven.
Short version; I bought the property with X, and put myself on a very big loan with him, that I was 50% responsible for. Then, we got married.
Now I know, 7 years later, that X lied to me about everything involved with every transaction regarding said properties. He diverted and stole funds from our community property, forged my name on loan documents without my knowledge, made loans to other people with our community funds without my knowledge, tried to obtain other loans on our property by claiming that our community property was his sole and separate property without my knowledge, and on and on and on.
Also, X tried to convince everyone, and anyone, that HE, and HE alone,was the only person responsible for the extremely profitable development and sales of both properties. He tried to claim that I was a “hindrance” to the subs and contractors, during the 7 years of my life that I spent working on these projects, and that I “held up” the building process. What a bunch of bull. Forensic accounting tells the truth! X can say whatever he wants, but the truth shows up on the bottom line of the accounting records.
Hey, that’s what it’s like to be married to a Narcissist. I was worthless, and he was a God. I forgot to mention that X is an atheist, and L. Ron Hubbard wrote the bible that X believes in.