The Truth Behind The Narcissist’s Mask; Do Your Homework Before It’s Too Late

Feb 182011
 

The Truth Behind The Narcissist’s Mask…

Yes! It is possible, usual, and normal, for a Narcissist to take all of the steps necessary, to assume a believable, powerful persona, of someone that they are not! They are expert, pathological liars, that will say and do anything, to cover up the truth of what they really are. Sometimes they come from damaged family backgrounds. Sometimes, they are spoiled, rotten brats. Sometimes, there is no reason for them to act the way that they do. The “sense of entitlement” of a Narcissist drives them to do whatever they want, to whomever they want, to achieve a sense of superiority, and acceptance, in their conception of reality.

For this reason, here is my most important advice to you! Do a background check on this person before you get too involved, especially when you’re talking about the The Three M’S; MONEY, MOVING IN TOGETHER, & MARRIAGE! If you’re talking about your future, you  have the right to know about their past, and present life.  Ask for, or obtain his/her SS#, and Drivers’ license # (better yet, a copy of the ID).  See if they have aliases, criminal history,ex-wives, current wives, children, and mental problems. Run a credit report on them. Go to the County Records, and pull up everything you can find with their name on it (you can do some of this online). And, even after that , DIG DEEPER! I didn’t find out, until we were separated after seven years of living together, that  my ex husband had been involved in 62 lawsuits (YES, SIXTY TWO), that I was not even aware of, BEFORE WE WERE MARRIED!!! He was a professional litigator, without an attorney’s license! Hope this helps you feel a little bit better. I, at least, deserve a free dunce cap.

Diary First post for Narcissistic EX…

Apr 032010
 

Diary First post for Narcissistic EX…

X convinced me to buy a property with him, before we were married, for our future together. The plan was to remodel the old house, that was on one lot, for ourselves. I had the background and experience that was necessary to fix up the existing and messed up house. Believe me, it was MESSED UP! I have a talent, actually a gift, of vision, and can fix an ugly house, inexpensively . We would then design, build, and sell a new house on the separate, adjoining lot, for a big profit.

X told me that we would be partners on both properties, and X couldn’t buy the project without me. He was living with me at the time, and even though he was legally divorced, he and his ex wife (#2) were still “fighting” over money and child custody issues.

The word “fighting” is an understatement of what was truly going on between the two of them. X and his ex were embroiled in a all out WAR. They used their children, and me as sacrificial pawns, in their efforts to obtain power and control over each other. I did not understand that this was FUN AND GAMES for them! This crap went on throughout our entire marriage. X pretty much shielded me from the reality of THE WAR, until the day we got married.

Now, where was I……..? Oh, yeah. The house that was gonna lead us to Heaven.

Short version; I bought the property with X, and put myself on a very big loan with him, that I was 50% responsible for. Then, we got married.

Now I know, 7 years later, that X lied to me about everything involved with every transaction regarding said properties. He diverted and stole funds from our community property, forged my name on loan documents without my knowledge, made loans to other people with our community funds without my knowledge, tried to obtain other loans on our property by claiming that our community property was his sole and separate property without my knowledge, and on and on and on.

Also, X tried to convince everyone, and anyone, that HE, and HE alone,was the only person responsible for the extremely profitable development and sales of both properties. He tried to claim that I was a “hindrance” to the subs and contractors, during the 7  years of my life that I spent working on these projects, and that I “held up” the building process. What a bunch of bull. Forensic accounting tells the truth!  X can say whatever he wants, but the truth shows up on the bottom line of the accounting records.

Hey, that’s what it’s like to be married to a Narcissist. I was worthless, and he was a God. I forgot to mention that X is an atheist, and L. Ron Hubbard wrote the bible that X believes in.