Comments for The Narcissistic Ex http://narcissisticex.com Tue, 10 Jan 2012 03:14:47 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on This Blog was Hijacked… but I have it back! by admin http://narcissisticex.com/this-blog-was-hijacked-but-i-have-it-back/comment-page-1/#comment-4010 admin Tue, 10 Jan 2012 03:14:47 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?p=881#comment-4010 DearJess, I am so glad that you wrote to me, and am thrilled that you've realized that YOU ARE NOT INSANE!Please, please, start a journal, of everything that you are going through. Write it, voice record, or video record, on a daily basis if possible. Keep this journal in a VERY safe place; it could save your life! You should write a book, a blog, or just keep sharing your experiences on my site. You have NO IDEA, how many people you can help, including yourself, by doing so. Just so you know; I stopped writing for a while,because I was too depressed to even get out of bed. I isolated myself because I was too embarrassed to reach out to almost everyone, for help. This asshole had abused,humiliated,and destroyed me. using the legal system, AND, slandering me to everyone in MY OWN TOWN. Here's the good news; the truth will come out. People will realize that the Narc is the liar.The Narc will destroy "itself".Lay low, take care of yourself, and do not respond to the bullshit.I hope that you have a couple of people that you can trust to be by your side, and you need to have a professional therapist that specializes in dealing with Narcissists, Psychopaths, Sociopaths, and Charles Manson. Keep in touch! Much love to you from me. DearJess,
I am so glad that you wrote to me, and am thrilled that you’ve realized that YOU ARE NOT INSANE!Please, please, start a journal, of everything that you are going through. Write it, voice record, or video record, on a daily basis if possible. Keep this journal in a VERY safe place; it could save your life! You should write a book, a blog, or just keep sharing your experiences on my site. You have NO IDEA, how many people you can help, including yourself, by doing so.

Just so you know; I stopped writing for a while,because I was too depressed to even get out of bed. I isolated myself because I was too embarrassed to reach out to almost everyone, for help. This asshole had abused,humiliated,and destroyed me. using the legal system, AND, slandering me to everyone in MY OWN TOWN. Here’s the good news; the truth will come out. People will realize that the Narc is the liar.The Narc will destroy “itself”.Lay low, take care of yourself, and do not respond to the bullshit.I hope that you have a couple of people that you can trust to be by your side, and you need to have a professional therapist that specializes in dealing with Narcissists, Psychopaths, Sociopaths, and Charles Manson. Keep in touch! Much love to you from me.

]]> Comment on This Blog was Hijacked… but I have it back! by Jess78 http://narcissisticex.com/this-blog-was-hijacked-but-i-have-it-back/comment-page-1/#comment-3776 Jess78 Thu, 03 Nov 2011 04:04:57 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?p=881#comment-3776 OMG....another one of my bad days going through this divorce process with my own Narc Ex. Then I come across your BLOG. I'm REALLY NOT INSANE! Everything I've read so far is my ex to a T. I've been in therapy for 3 years now because of this jerk and how crazy he made ME feel. Your blog is even more proof that I'm not hallucinating. I've actually been thinking of writing a book about my situation, but thinking about it while still going through it are COMPLETELY exhausting to me at this point. Thank God I found you! OMG….another one of my bad days going through this divorce process with my own Narc Ex. Then I come across your BLOG. I’m REALLY NOT INSANE! Everything I’ve read so far is my ex to a T. I’ve been in therapy for 3 years now because of this jerk and how crazy he made ME feel. Your blog is even more proof that I’m not hallucinating. I’ve actually been thinking of writing a book about my situation, but thinking about it while still going through it are COMPLETELY exhausting to me at this point. Thank God I found you!

]]> Comment on About Me by admin http://narcissisticex.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-491 admin Sun, 18 Sep 2011 20:12:59 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?page_id=2#comment-491 Amazing, sick, sad, and true. I never thought about the witness relo program........ Amazing, sick, sad, and true. I never thought about the witness relo program……..

]]> Comment on About Me by Robbin http://narcissisticex.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-451 Robbin Sat, 17 Sep 2011 06:10:50 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?page_id=2#comment-451 I have been going through a divorce with a Narcissist for the last three and a half years; March 2012 will make it 4 years. She is completely unreasonable about everything. She has found an attorney who she does not pay, but continues to take me back to court over every little thing. Then he tells the judge I should pay for his time and the judge here has no problem awarding those fees. They have taken or forced me to liquidate everything I have to pay for her attorney, the guardian ad litem, and my attorney (that is when I can afford them). She and her attorney have lied to the court, presented false data, and because I wasn’t able to afford an attorney at the time, I was not able to present what needed to be presented to show they were and are wrong. It all takes money. At the last hearing as I sat testifying to the court how her attorney has harassed me, threatened me with jail time, she was sitting there with one of those smiles, the one that was saying I am loving seeing you on the hot seat, then she reached up to her eye with one finger and acted like she was wiping away a tear. All I want is for it to be over. We have been married for 22 years, she has had multiple affairs, manipulated me and everyone else, and I just kept telling myself I need to make it until my children are grown and then I can divorce her. I had no idea she would make my life a living hell after separating from her. It isn't easy, and people have told me I have the patience of JOB. But she has left emtional scars on me that will never go away, she has taken away from me ... my pride, dignity, my children, and because of her attorneys harassment towards me at work, and constantly notifying my employer or requesting this document and that document and then with all the time taken off for these stupid ass, frivilous court hearings over nothing, I have lost my job. The bottom line in my oppinion, if you are divorcing a Narc, get in touch with the witness relocation program, and don't let them know where you are. I have been going through a divorce with a Narcissist for the last three and a half years; March 2012 will make it 4 years. She is completely unreasonable about everything. She has found an attorney who she does not pay, but continues to take me back to court over every little thing. Then he tells the judge I should pay for his time and the judge here has no problem awarding those fees. They have taken or forced me to liquidate everything I have to pay for her attorney, the guardian ad litem, and my attorney (that is when I can afford them). She and her attorney have lied to the court, presented false data, and because I wasn’t able to afford an attorney at the time, I was not able to present what needed to be presented to show they were and are wrong. It all takes money. At the last hearing as I sat testifying to the court how her attorney has harassed me, threatened me with jail time, she was sitting there with one of those smiles, the one that was saying I am loving seeing you on the hot seat, then she reached up to her eye with one finger and acted like she was wiping away a tear. All I want is for it to be over. We have been married for 22 years, she has had multiple affairs, manipulated me and everyone else, and I just kept telling myself I need to make it until my children are grown and then I can divorce her. I had no idea she would make my life a living hell after separating from her. It isn’t easy, and people have told me I have the patience of JOB. But she has left emtional scars on me that will never go away, she has taken away from me … my pride, dignity, my children, and because of her attorneys harassment towards me at work, and constantly notifying my employer or requesting this document and that document and then with all the time taken off for these stupid ass, frivilous court hearings over nothing, I have lost my job. The bottom line in my oppinion, if you are divorcing a Narc, get in touch with the witness relocation program, and don’t let them know where you are.

]]> Comment on How Do I Escape? by admin http://narcissisticex.com/how-do-i-escape/comment-page-1/#comment-421 admin Sat, 03 Sep 2011 22:25:30 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?p=271#comment-421 I agree with EVERYTHING that you have written!!!!! Thank you, thank you , thank you. You have great suggestions, and I've tried to get the court to reprimand him, for his overt actions not only are in contempt of court, but also illegal. I have shown the court, over and over again, his past record of vexatious litigation (over 65 entries in this county's court records), and the records of malicious litigation, against me (for the past FOUR AND A HALF YEARS), and NEVER ONCE has this Judge EVER sanctioned him for any of his actions. This is a private, pro temp Judge, that I agreed to handle this case, because I was advised to do so by my first attorney . Supposedly, this was to speed up the process, since the courts are overcrowded with family law cases. This man is paid by the hour (I've paid him over $100,000.000 to date) so he has no desire, or motivation, to wrap up this case. On top of that, I found out, last year, that he and my ex had NON DISCLOSED business dealings together, dating back to TWO YEARS before we even filed for divorce, and have continued business dealings together TO THIS DAY!!! I never even knew this attorney/Judge's name, until he came into the picture during the Divorce!!!!!!! I have been advised by my attorneys , that here is nothing I can do about any of this, until the case is over. After that, I can file a case against the judge. Great! With what money??? This whole thing is so ridiculous. If you have any connections, ideas, etc. that can help expose this sick system. PLEASE LET ME KNOW. Maybe there is a Robin Hood out there, who can help us. Until then, I don't know what to say. Please forward this site to ANYONE that can look into the myriad of cases like this. There must be SOMEONE that can help us!!! Thanks again. Please keep in touch. Let me know if there is anything that I can do to change this system. Until then, the Criminals will continue to run the courts, and the Victims will lose everything. P.S. Caps are my way of SCREAMING!!!!!!!!!!! I agree with EVERYTHING that you have written!!!!! Thank you, thank you , thank you. You have great suggestions, and I’ve tried to get the court to reprimand him, for his overt actions not only are in contempt of court, but also illegal. I have shown the court, over and over again, his past record of vexatious litigation (over 65 entries in this county’s court records), and the records of malicious litigation, against me (for the past FOUR AND A HALF YEARS), and NEVER ONCE has this Judge EVER sanctioned him for any of his actions. This is a private, pro temp Judge, that I agreed to handle this case, because I was advised to do so by my first attorney . Supposedly, this was to speed up the process, since the courts are overcrowded with family law cases. This man is paid by the hour (I’ve paid him over $100,000.000 to date) so he has no desire, or motivation, to wrap up this case. On top of that, I found out, last year, that he and my ex had NON DISCLOSED business dealings together, dating back to TWO YEARS before we even filed for divorce, and have continued business dealings together TO THIS DAY!!! I never even knew this attorney/Judge’s name, until he came into the picture during the Divorce!!!!!!! I have been advised by my attorneys , that here is nothing I can do about any of this, until the case is over. After that, I can file a case against the judge. Great! With what money??? This whole thing is so ridiculous. If you have any connections, ideas, etc. that can help expose this sick system. PLEASE LET ME KNOW. Maybe there is a Robin Hood out there, who can help us. Until then, I don’t know what to say. Please forward this site to ANYONE that can look into the myriad of cases like this. There must be SOMEONE that can help us!!!
Thanks again. Please keep in touch. Let me know if there is anything that I can do to change this system. Until then, the Criminals will continue to run the courts, and the Victims will lose everything. P.S. Caps are my way of SCREAMING!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> Comment on How Do I Escape? by Kynzie http://narcissisticex.com/how-do-i-escape/comment-page-1/#comment-412 Kynzie Wed, 31 Aug 2011 17:18:25 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?p=271#comment-412 My ex married a narc. Since then, I've had the full blown menu you have discussed in your posts; false allegations, flase police reports, blatant lying to all court workgroup members... I don't know what you can do to end it. I have been dealing with my case for almost ten years and the narc has my kids in a stranglehold - but you know how it is... "prove it". I wonder if, if you can prove how many times he has taken you to court for false allegations are significant, if you could pursue a designation of vexatious litigation against him, since, to my knowledge, malicious litigation is not available in the family courts. Maybe if you can prove he keeps dragging you into court for bad-faith litigation, the judge can label him and fine him or require a deposit of a significant sum before he can file an action, so that 1) he might be discouraged to take you back to court, or 2) the court can have the funds to reimburse you for the actions. Kust a thought. I don't know how valid it could be for you but I think it's worth looking into? I have trial coming up myself and am studying up on how to get my special narc exposed on the stand, not judst for being a liar, but for the psychological abuse on me and most importantly, on our children. Since she's a step-parent, if I do it right, I can force my ex to do something about her, whether it's getting her into counseling or, if he gets mad enough that she cost him so much in court, kick her ass to the curb where she belongs. Good luck to you. I definitely feel your pain. My ex married a narc. Since then, I’ve had the full blown menu you have discussed in your posts; false allegations, flase police reports, blatant lying to all court workgroup members… I don’t know what you can do to end it. I have been dealing with my case for almost ten years and the narc has my kids in a stranglehold – but you know how it is… “prove it”. I wonder if, if you can prove how many times he has taken you to court for false allegations are significant, if you could pursue a designation of vexatious litigation against him, since, to my knowledge, malicious litigation is not available in the family courts. Maybe if you can prove he keeps dragging you into court for bad-faith litigation, the judge can label him and fine him or require a deposit of a significant sum before he can file an action, so that 1) he might be discouraged to take you back to court, or 2) the court can have the funds to reimburse you for the actions. Kust a thought. I don’t know how valid it could be for you but I think it’s worth looking into?
I have trial coming up myself and am studying up on how to get my special narc exposed on the stand, not judst for being a liar, but for the psychological abuse on me and most importantly, on our children. Since she’s a step-parent, if I do it right, I can force my ex to do something about her, whether it’s getting her into counseling or, if he gets mad enough that she cost him so much in court, kick her ass to the curb where she belongs. Good luck to you. I definitely feel your pain.

]]> Comment on The Narcissistic Ex on the Witness Stand by admin http://narcissisticex.com/the-narcissistic-ex-on-the-witness-stand/comment-page-1/#comment-397 admin Fri, 26 Aug 2011 23:57:58 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?p=213#comment-397 I googled "psychiatrists dealing with PTSD and NPD dayton ohio", and found many sources for Doctors that deal specifically with these disorders. That's a start. Congratulations on getting away from him. That's one of the biggest hurdles. You did what's best for you, and your children. Please let me know how you're doing. Life will be so much better for you! I googled “psychiatrists dealing with PTSD and NPD dayton ohio”, and found many sources for Doctors that deal specifically with these disorders. That’s a start. Congratulations on getting away from him. That’s one of the biggest hurdles. You did what’s best for you, and your children. Please let me know how you’re doing. Life will be so much better for you!

]]> Comment on The Narcissistic Ex on the Witness Stand by admin http://narcissisticex.com/the-narcissistic-ex-on-the-witness-stand/comment-page-1/#comment-396 admin Fri, 26 Aug 2011 23:44:37 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?p=213#comment-396 I'll look into how to find a specialty therapist for you. Congratulations on getting away from him. That's one of the biggest hurdles. You did what's best for you, and your children. I’ll look into how to find a specialty therapist for you. Congratulations on getting away from him. That’s one of the biggest hurdles. You did what’s best for you, and your children.

]]> Comment on About Me by Barb http://narcissisticex.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-386 Barb Tue, 23 Aug 2011 18:14:06 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?page_id=2#comment-386 I was with my Narc for 11 long and miserable years. We have a 9 year old son together. When we split, he dumped my 11 year old daughter who was 9 months old when we met. He cheated on me with a girl from his job for almost a year.. before I got fed up and finally booted his butt out. They just had a baby last month and she has 3 of her own kids. He is a liar, a snake and a deceptive prick. He's not above lying to get what he wants and he is as fake as they come. I find myself wondering if it wasn't all just me.. then I remember every time he cheated on me and physically abused me and I know its not my fault. My kids are both in therapy to repair the damage that was caused from living with him. I feel sorry for the new supply but am thankful that b/c of her he leaves us alone. I wish I would wake up and this would all be a nightmare. I gave up 11 years of my life for a lie. I never meant anything to him and never will. We were just play toys for him. I was with my Narc for 11 long and miserable years. We have a 9 year old son together. When we split, he dumped my 11 year old daughter who was 9 months old when we met. He cheated on me with a girl from his job for almost a year.. before I got fed up and finally booted his butt out. They just had a baby last month and she has 3 of her own kids. He is a liar, a snake and a deceptive prick. He’s not above lying to get what he wants and he is as fake as they come. I find myself wondering if it wasn’t all just me.. then I remember every time he cheated on me and physically abused me and I know its not my fault. My kids are both in therapy to repair the damage that was caused from living with him. I feel sorry for the new supply but am thankful that b/c of her he leaves us alone. I wish I would wake up and this would all be a nightmare. I gave up 11 years of my life for a lie. I never meant anything to him and never will. We were just play toys for him.

]]> Comment on The Narcissistic Ex on the Witness Stand by Christy http://narcissisticex.com/the-narcissistic-ex-on-the-witness-stand/comment-page-1/#comment-359 Christy Thu, 18 Aug 2011 15:21:18 +0000 http://narcissisticex.com/?p=213#comment-359 Thanks Admin - any ideas on how I can find a specialty therpist in my area (Dayton / Cincy, OH)? Thanks Admin – any ideas on how I can find a specialty therpist in my area (Dayton / Cincy, OH)?

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