Abuse from The Narcissisist and the Narcissistic Ex
My husband abused me for over nine years; six years during our marriage, and three more years since our separation and divorce. Our “Family Law” case is STILL not settled.
The abuse didn’t start until after we got married. We lived together for a year prior to marrying in a fairly blissful relationship. We did have problems with hostile interference from his ex wife (SECOND ex wife) and, and her continual use of their two children as pawns to try to destroy our relationship. They had been divorced for a year before we started dating. He swore to me that the problems that he had with her were temporary; just a matter of straightening out a few child custody issues that would not be a problem for us. According to him, his ex was a drug addict, alcoholic, and an adulteress, that had abandoned him and their two children from the beginning of their marriage. He was the victim,and SHE was the villain.
Before the marriage he convinced me that he was the most loving, protective, adoring man, that I had ever met, and that I was the most special woman in the world. He loved me. His children loved me. He would take care of me.WE were meant to be! I never, never, thought that he had intentions to, or was capable of, hurting me like he did.
After looking back on our relationship, I now see that he carefully planned the entire drama, from the beginning to the end, and this was not his first rodeo. I was his third wife; he orchestrated and conducted his first two marriages in the same manner. I found this out by going through court records and transcripts that revealed the tactics that he used to try to destroy his first two wives, and they were the exact same tactics that he used to try to destroy me.
Sound like someone you know? More later.